10 THINGS YOU SHOULD COMMIT YOURSELF TO DURING COURTHSHIP.

 

1. Set rules that are binding based on pre knowledge of similarities in values and standard. This includes your take on sexual purity and avoidance of places or positions that can make you easily fall into fornication. If you’re very spiritually mature, you can bind yourself with an oath stating what should happen to you, if you cross the line but if not, then just draw out your rules and still hang on to his grace which is ever able to keep you from falling. 

 

 

2. Be accountable to a trusted spiritual head. This will give you a sense of restrain in stepping out of boundaries and accountability.

 

 3. Having a joint project you’re working on which will involve both of your intellectual, spiritual and financial input. This will ensure that you are not idle and also, develop the resident gifts in both parties which can help in empowering the relationship. 

 

 

4. Have a specific time of fasting, prayer and sharing of scriptural insights. 

 

5. Spend time in the company of others and not just yourselves, go for functions together. This will help both of you to observe various characters in each other that can only be elicited in a different environment. 

 

6. Make sure you both attend life building seminars and conferences or get relevant materials for any party absent.

 

 7. Never threaten each other with breakups. (it weakens the foundation of the courtship). 

 

8. Each party should write down meaningful and purpose driven questions in a book which will include so many things you desire to know about your intended. E.g past history of relationships, health, number of children he/she likes, your views on inlaws interference in family issues, e.t.c Lots of questions abound and can be asked at different times of your specified dates or outings together.

 

 

 9. Don’t go telling third parties issues between you both, except your spiritual head and that is if there’s absolute need for it . 10. Above all, commit the foundation of the relationship into Gods hands with knowledge of the date. Note that your courtship is a shadow of what to expect in your actual marriage. Few things change in marriage. So, you must be willing, ready and disciplined enough to give in what you want to see grow in your marriage. 

 

May God be ever relevant in your courtship in Jesus name, Amen.