HEARING ANOTHER LADY PICK THE PHONE, LANDED ME IN THE HOSPITAL!!!

MY EXPERIENCE

 It all started on a bright afternoon after the close of lecture and going for the normal Tuesday digging deep at the fellowship. This bold guy walked up to me and made some bold compliments which was appreciated and we got talking as friends. This was some minutes before the programme started. Contacts were exchanged and I discovered he was in his HND in school. We communicated everyday which made the relationship stronger.

We talked about our differences and similarities and at a point I observed we were sharing some intimate sides of our lives and past. One faithful day, he called for an impromptu meeting at our usual place within the school premises. I arrived there almost immediately because he had become someone I just cherished naturally and could no longer deny any of his wishes. I guess at this point you would say ‘I was falling in love’ well you could be right because of the flow of communication, Oh yeah! I  arrived at the venue, we exchanged pleasantries and he popped the question at me, “would you mind walking with me through life?” I was dazed at the question ‘cos I instantly knew what he meant and with no restrictions I gave my reply and it was a YES. Lo and behold the journey started! I loved this guy like he meant the whole world to me, he reciprocated the same and it all seemed perfect not until one day he received a text message and ‘unfortunately’ I was with the phone. I read the message and discovered that it was sent by a lady and from the lines of the text it didn’t seem to be just an acquaintance but someone with an intimate relationship. I became eager and anxious to look through his inbox and I found out series of familiar text message from the same lady.

When he arrived, I called his attention to the text and asked who bore that name ‘SWEET’. And he replied saying just a friend, but after much dissatisfaction to his reply, he voiced and said it was his ex-girlfriend and they aren’t together anymore but she keeps pleading for his return. I believed him because I chose to believe him but ever since that incidence, it has been one issue or the other to be resolved. Remarks kept coming from friends to let go of him; as the remarks were made I kept relaying it to him and he said I shouldn’t bother because they were all jealous. I created enmity with my friends. Hardly did I now I was doing myself more harm than good. At a point I discovered I didn’t have friends around anymore and I was always wanting to be with him. 

I became so possessive that if he spent more time with someone else than myself, no matter the gender, I became very angry. It went on like that till my Mum called to meet with my “boyfriend”. I was happy she wanted to meet him, I told him and we went to visit her on a weekend. After much discussion, I discovered some level of satisfaction in her voice and look but she called me and warned me to be very careful. Months went by and it was during the holiday period, he was called up for youth service (NYSC). He told me he would be travelling to get his call up letter on the 12^th February and he would be staying back in school to get some of his things. On the 14^th February, which happened to be valentine day, I called him up to express how much I loved him {he was the first man in my life}, his phone was picked and the next voice I heard was a lady’s. I asked of her name and it appeared to be the name of his so called ex-girlfriend. I dropped the call because I couldn’t contain what I heard, so I called back again and I received the shocking news of my life; the guy I thought loved me made this statements “ I know you love me but we could be better off as friends” and he dropped. I called back again to be sure I heard the right thing, the phone was picked and I heard exchange of love tongues. I grew cold and scattered. I cried till I became tired and weak. At a point, it affected my breath and all I knew later was that I was placed on admission at UCH, Ibadan.

My family wasn’t too happy about the incidence but they were there for me despite the fact that I despised them and ignored all their warnings just because of a guy who wasn’t responsible. I recovered after some days but it took years before I could get over the shock. Now I’m healed and in a better relationship. He isn’t married either and unfortunately the lady is married to someone else.

My advice is that no lady should take any man as indispensable before marriage. Don’t love with your heart instead love with your head!

 Titi... (My Real Name!)